Tl;dr- I did some digging into my subconscious actions, and found that I send long messages because 1) I have issues speaking to people without getting flustered, and 2) I'm using the sentences to make up for how stupid I sound in person. Essentially, I do it because I'm insecure. It took some digging but I've figured out why I send such long messages to everyone. I'm terrible at communicating what I'm thinking in person; I get nervous, talk fast and start making less and less sense, which just makes me more nervous, and on and on. When I'm messaging someone, I'm free to take as much time as I need to put ideas into sentences. I'm usually modest about this, but recently I've been told to be more confident in myself….I'm pretty damn smart. But when I talk, I don't sound it. When I can message someone, I use a HUGE vocabulary unintentionally, just to make up for how stupid I seem in person. I've used words in a sentence that I've only glimpsed, not learned, and used it in the right context. I've used words that high school English teachers haven't even heard. All to make up for the fact that I can't talk. I've struggled with this my entire life, but it's only gotten worse since developing anxiety. I value clear and concise communication, and probably value it too much. I literally spend 10 minutes after typing out a message just fixing it and tweaking it. I've done it with this post as well, not gonna lie, it was more like 30 mins😅 I try to communicate in a way that leaves no room for que